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No, not a funeral. Tomorrow, she flies to New York City where her journey begins.
I could feel free chat line phone hole that her absence would leave. I walked slowly back to my car. Tears filled my eyes. She had such excitement ahead of her!
And what was I doing with my life?
I wanted what she had: an exhilarating new beginning with palpable what-happens-next exhilaration. I had none of that. I was alone.
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I had recently ended a four-year relationship that I thought would be the love of my life. My adult kids have their own lives well beyond mine. Who needs me?
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However, this is not my divorce, and my life will not be permanently altered. Note to self: gather up the drama and throw it in the garbage. I am what I think! My brain believes everything I tell it.
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Thank you for writing this.
It helped to put a positive spin in things. My daughter moved out in April and she is doing well. As is my son who moved two years ago already.
It took me months to let go. And I have been alone free party line chat for a month and a half. At first it was so peaceful, but it has brought up feelings of grief I have experienced on and off for the past 4 years. But I am grateful I have another single girlfriend, grown kid too, moving in this weekend.
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I was completely unaware, shocked and devastated. He moved out his personal effects over the course of the following weeks and is renting a place miles away.
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